Love is like a plant. If you don’t feed it and take care of it every day, it will die eventually.
You know what they say about love being a chemical reaction in the brain that only lasts six months? Well, that’s kind of true, but not completely. It’s true that a huge process goes on in our heads when we fall in love, and that over time it starts fading out, but I don’t think it’s true that after this it’s all gone and the only thing that remains is the bond that ties you to that person. On the contrary, I believe that love is like a plant, which, if not taken care of and given the proper attention, it can be like tossing a coin. It either manages to survive (barely), or it dies. Believe it or not, no matter at what stage of the relationship you are, there are so many behaviors and attitudes you have every day that, without realizing it, are killing the love. It’s up to you to realize it and start caring about it, or else it will turn into a miserable relationship or end in an ugly breakup. Here are some of these attitudes.
1. Jealousy and lack of trust
2. Lack of interest
3. You give up important things in your life
4. Lack of communication
5. Everyday frustrations
Sometimes, when we see this kind of list, we think that it only applies to couples who live together because otherwise you’re not really sharing every single moment of the day. However, whether or not you’re living together, if you’re frustrated about what’s going on in your life (and you’re always complaining), your partner will definitely notice, since they will get a strange kind of toxic attitude from you. If you have problems at work, school, or wherever you spend your day, try forgetting about them for a while and give your full attention to your partner. Seriously, even the most understanding partner ever will get tired of hearing you whine about the same stuff over and over again.
6. You barely talk about your feelings
7. You make disrespectful comments
8. You treat your partner as one of your friends
9. You don’t have that much intimacy anymore
10. You don’t have a life outside the relationship